easy to read but hard to do D hahahah Hon, did you sleep okay You look kinda weird Well, I don t know how to say this Yes I had this dream where I talked with God Was She black No, I m serious I did It was, like, utterly real It was the most real thing that s ever happened to me.The rest of this review is available elsewhere the location cannot be given for Goodreads policy reasons Ever since I worked at the bookstore at Virginia Tech, I would watch the douchebag business major undergrads buy this book for their classes and look down upon them, and the book by association, as, well, douchebags This is not to say that all undergrad business majors are douchebags I ve met one really really awesome one Additionally, after working at a major university bookstore, a majority of all undergrad students can be fairly classified as douchebags Jebus.Consequently, I never picked up this book I hated the people who were reading it for class I hated the people who were assigning it for their classes I hated my job and I hated the area that I was living in I was, yes indeedy, a hater Obviously it wasn t the right time for me to read it.My current boss who is only occasionally a douchebag is doing this huge self help life plan program, and from it, there is a major reading list As I am a wee bit addicted to books, I immediately agreed, and when I started searching on for the reading list, 7 Habits appeared on pretty much every single page So I picked that one up too.Excellent decision I chose to read it first It has taken me, probably three weeks to read it I have ordered with my boss blessing The 8th Habit and will read that shortly.Every single page I found something that made me put the book down for a couple of minutes and think about it I already know that I m going to have to re read this at some point in the near future I would say this is required reading for humanity, but my father would have been the exception to that rule.Basically, this book will teach you about effective ways to be a compassionate, kind, enjoyable human being It will teach you about personal responsibility personal as in to your self, and to others It will teach you how to be a better parent, employee, spouse, daughter, or boss I can t give it enough praise It is a truly outstanding book. I think the sign of a great book is when, right inside the cover there is a pull out brochure that encourages you to order of the authors products that s some quality shit when you see that.But the book itself, well it has charts flow charts, boxed charts, circle charts, up and down charts, sideways charts, charts with arrows, charts with triangles and charts with dotted lines.This book uses words like synergy and proactive.repeatedly This book has application suggestions This book is shiny and it has 6 pages of recommendations before the title page This book makes me want to barf A LOT so much so, that I could even stop watching what I eat because I d be barfing up all the calories anyway I could eat and eat and eat and barf and barf and barf and it wouldn t be a disorder because it would all happen naturally no effort on my part, just read and barf, read and barf like that.This book is my assigned reading for tonight, this review received of my attention than the assigned reading will. One of the most highlighted books on Kindle, proving that human beings thrive on snappy buzz quotes written by middle managers like David Brent who partake of the music of M People and Steely Dan Kool The Gang, and whose souls were long ago vacuumed out in a boardroom somewhere during a PowerPoint presentation Regard What you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say.This incoherent drivel has the most highlights Regard the faux profound self importance of the cannot in this sentence, as though securing the attention of Jim Phelps CEO of E Z Clix Online Supplies is the pinnacle of human achievement Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.You can say this imbecilic utterance in any accent, or at any speed you like, and it still would be a piece of drivelling cack It would still linger on the brain for a second as a semi intelligent observation, before pooling slowly to the floor like the incoherent dog drool it really is when given two seconds thought Management is doing things right leadership is doing the right things Die now Die now, you patronising ill bred country club smug face slab of nothing See how that semicolon WINKS at you, as if to say Just listen to my me and everything will be all right Just quote this vacuous frog plop at the next AGM and sit back as the room erupts into spontaneous applause Told you so The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person Reactive people are driven by feelings, by circumstances, by conditions, by their environment Proactive people are driven by values carefully thought about, selected and internalized values Translation proactive people are greedy loveless cash licking pus heads It s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.Are you sure it s not our response to our response to what happens to us that hurts us Or our response to our response to our response to what happens to us that hurts us is what hurts us and us and us and them Effectiveness lies in the balance what I call the P PC Balance P stands for production of desired results, the golden eggs PC stands for production capability, the ability or asset that produces the golden eggs.P how many eggs stakeholders want chickens to shit out, vs PC how many eggs the chickens are capable of shitting out if kept in airless cages and fed reheated bull droppings Squeeze em harder, Mr Pancks The PC principle is to always treat your employees exactly as you want them to treat your best customers.Condescending fake friendliness masking resentment and loathing For our purposes, we will define a habit as the intersection of knowledge, skill, and desire Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the what to do and the why Skill is the how to do And desire is the motivation, the want to do In order to make something a habit in our lives, we have to have all three OH MOMMY MAKE IT STOP This was recommended reading following on from a course and I found it to be an odd mix of the homely and the disturbing.On the whole it s probably the dogmatic air of absolute certainty that I find disturbing, that and the way he describes how he reduced his son to tears over keeping the garden in good order Reading this book is rather like having a very one sided conversation with a particularly earnest and opinionated drunk who isn t shy to jab you in the chest with a fore finger to underline a point That s not to say that the seven habits are bad, far from it They are a quite reasonable and potentially useful set of habits Whether effective people tend to have these habits or if having these habits will make you effective is presumed but not proven by this book which is heavily anecdotal, but that is neither here nor there The power of the argument and the vast number of sales lies in how the seven habits tap into our moral beliefs about the kind of habits we want to be able to have to make us successful, and to the point the kind of habits that we want to believe make people successful, and in the great tradition of self help books it asserts the primacy of the individual will over any and all other circumstances No war, want, injustice, disease, political, economic or social structure can hinder the truly just man girt by the seven habits Business in this account is a battlefield in the moral universe, the victor, a sage at least if not a saint.Be proactive, begin with the end in mind, put first things first, think win win, seek first to understand and then to be understood, synergise and sharpen the saw are the seven habits That s the meat of the book in one sentence I wonder if all of Covey s seven habits could be cribbed out of Weber s The Protestant Ethic and the Spirit of Capitalism But equally perhaps we should remember that seven is a magic number, this really isn t a business book, it is a spiritual book The seven habits are to stand firm against the seven deadly sins Life on Earth for Covey is a probationary period for the life ever after, since Covey was a Mormon being true to his faith was due to be rewarded with stewardship of an entire planet Clearly one needs to demonstrate effective stewardship over the smaller business of mortal life to be judged ready for such a substantial reward.In turn this was another disturbing element to the book for me because this means that everything becomes functional Having a picnic with your sweetheart isn t about enjoying life it is an important Quadrant II activity This is a mechanistic view of the human experience and, sadder yet, a harsh one The path to life everlasting is a narrow one, beset with dangers while storms around do rage Fear not, lonely pilgrim, for Covey illuminates the way with quadrants and diagrams.Yet there is optimism in his approach Understanding triumphs eternally Despite what he repeats about paradigm shifts he believes that everybody can come to see both alternative paradigms and appreciate their validity Personally I suspect that every reader will be able to think of occasions when opposite points of view are not reconcilable Honesty and realism has to temper any reading of this book.Maybe my problem with this book is that everything is spelt out It s a Sunday sermon and the pastor is going to read out every word and isn t going to be hurried on to his inevitable conclusions Worth reading for a taste of the horror and the glory of late twentieth early twenty first century corporate life but keep some salt handy. An okay book if you don t know how to manage your life it s probably really helpful but if you ve thought about how to make yourself productive or effective a lot of it s intuitive Also like a lot of these books can only tell you things you have to make the changes yourself which is always the hard part so This one was better written than most which I appreciate. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R Covey 1997 1375 189 9644420160 1376 1380 1381 1384 189 9643280829 1392 1395 20 1376 348 9649146687 1377 1378 1383 1384 1385 1393 20 1376 416 9643122743 1379 137 9649133135. This book explains 7 principles that make a person effective personally and professionally Covey shows how a principle centered, character based life helps you build the healthy relationships that are key to an effective life This classic is well worth reading for its perspective and practical advice.ConceptsCorrect Principles Covey frequently references his Christianity He says the Habits are based on Correct Principles aka Natural Law found in Judeo Christian scriptures and common to major religions.P PC Balance Covey says you must maintain a balance between production P your output and production capability PC your ability to produce You must stay healthy and renew yourself see Habit 7 or you ll get burned out and become ineffective He uses the fable of the Goose and the Golden Egg as a metaphor.Interdependence Covey says the Habits lead you from dependence to independence to interdependence cooperating with others to achieve a common goal producing things greater than the sum of their parts.The 7 HabitsHabit 1 Be ProactiveYou choose how to respond to what life throws at you Between stimulus and response lies your freedom to choose Take responsibility for your actions.Habit 2 Begin with the End in Mind Choose your short term, daily behavior according to the plan you have for your entire life Think about the legacy you want to leave Put things in perspective what would you want people to say at your funeral Habit 3 Put First Things FirstDaily planning is too narrow and short sighted Weekly planning gives a better big picture perspective of your goals, and allows for the flexibility to deal with the things that will inevitably come up.People are important than things, so plan your time accordingly Be efficient with things, but effective with people You can t be efficient with relationships they take time Instead of focusing on things and time, focus on relationships and results.Only spend time on things that align with your deep values Don t waste time on other things, even if it means saying no to requests Don t prioritize your schedule schedule your priorities.Think of tasks in terms of urgency and importance Focus on the important, even though they seem less urgent Think preventatively to keep tasks from ever becoming urgent.Use stewardship delegation instead of gofer delegation teach a person to be the steward of the task you assign to them, rather than constantly telling them to go for this or go for that.Habit 4 Think Win WinMost of life requires cooperation, not competition Work together with co workers, friends, and family for mutual benefit Approach everything in terms of win win or no deal if you can t reach a deal in which both parties feel they re winning, don t make a deal at all Create win win agreements that clearly state expectations, privileges, consequences up front This prevents you from having to figure those things out when issues arise, and makes the relationship smooth because it causes each person to manage themselves.Think in terms of the Abundance Mentality rather than the Scarcity Mentality The quest for recognition, credit, power, and profit isn t a zero sum game Be happy when others succeed.Habit 5 Seek First to Understand, Then to be UnderstoodListen with the intent to understand, not to reply Diagnose before you prescribe Understand needs, concerns, situation before you give advice.To understand others, listen with empathy To be understood, present your views according to ethos personal credibilitypathos emotional alignment with the other personlogos logical reasoningYou can t motivate people by appealing to satisfied needs money, status, etc only unsatisfied needs motivate.Habit 6 Synergize.Value the differences in relationships Oneness is not sameness, it s complementariness Unity is not uniformity.Habit 7 Sharpen the SawRenew and improve in yourself in the following categories, by spending at least an hour each day Physical Eat right and exercise Spiritual Find and carry an inner peace Meditate, read scripture, or spend time in nature Mental Read good literature to gain the insights of others Write, organize, and plan Social emotional Understand others Serve others, at work or through volunteering.AfterwardCovey says a summary of the first 3 Habits is make and keep a promise, and a summary of the next 3 Habits is involve others in the problem and work out the solution together He says the first 3 Habits are about integrity, and the next 3 are about loyalty. When Stephen Covey First Released The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People, The Book Became An Instant Rage Because People Suddenly Got Up And Took Notice That Their Lives Were Headed Off In The Wrong Direction And Than That, They Realized That There Were So Many Simple Things They Could Do In Order To Navigate Their Life Correctly This Book Was Wonderful Education For People, Education In How To Live Life Effectively And Get Closer To The Ideal Of Being A Success In LifeBut Not Everyone Understands Stephen Covey S Model Fully Well, Or Maybe There Are Some People Who Haven T Read It Yet This Is Definitely True Because We Still See So Much Failure All Around Us Now, I Am Not Saying That By Using Covey S Model, Or Anyone Else S Model For That Matter, You Can Become A Sure Shot Success, But At Least We Should Have Seen Many Successes Around Us Already Judging By The Number Of Copies The Book Has Sold So, Where Is The Shortcoming There Are Two Main Problems Here, And We Are Talking Only About The People Who Have Read The Book Already The First Problem Is That Most People Are Too Lazy To Implement The Ideals Of Stephen Covey In Their Lives They Consider His Masterpiece Of A Book As A Mere Coffee Table Book Or A Book That You Use For Light Reading When You Are Traveling And Then Forget All About It They Do Not Realize That This Book Contains Life Changing Information Or, They Take The Information And Do Not Make The Effort To Actually Utilize It So That It Becomes Knowledge For ThemThe Second Problem Is That A Lot Of People Have A Myopic View Of Covey S Ideals These Are People Who Are Impressed By The Book Already If You Ask Them What The Seven Habits Are, They Can Rattle Them Off End To End, But Then They Miss The Larger Picture They Do Not Understand That Covey Was Trying To Tell Than He Wrote In Words There Are Hidden Implications In This Book, Yes, And A Lot Of People Have Just Failed To See Through ThemThat Is What We Are Trying To Do We Are Trying To Show You How Covey S Book, Or Rather, His Model, Was A Complete Model In Itself There Was Nothing Amiss About It If You Implement It, There Should Be No Aspect Of Your Life That Should Go Untouched The Only Thing Is That You Have To Understand These Ideals And Try To Implement Them In Your LifeBut, Before We Barge Into That Area, It Is Extremely Important To Understand What These Ideals Are What Was The Model That Was Propounded By Stephen Covey In His Mega Famous Book We Shall Begin By Trying To Understand His Model First, And Then Interpret It In Such A Way That It Pertains To Every Aspect Of Our Life
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- 372 pages
- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
- Stephen R. Covey
- 10 November 2017 Stephen R. Covey